This post is composed of comments from members of a private support group I have been a member of since before Google was a search engine. It's valuable to have support, and it's great to be able to increase your social support network online. The hardest part is finding a group of people who are compatible.
Julie's comment
I found this Group by accident. I was
searching for something else and a little box came up on the right hand side of
the page advertising the RA Yahoo Group. I read a little about it and
decided to join. I lingered around for awhile reading the messages and
then started sending messages and questions.
I am not one to join any kind of support group,
but this group was so interesting to me. It was nice to find others that
suffered with the same auto-immune disease and who really understood
everything. Each of you have contributed to my education of this disease
and just listened to my whining - giving good advice. Others think they
understand this disease, but they really don't. The only people who really understand are people who also have an auto-immune
disease.
Thanks to each of you who have
contributed. Everyone on this group is so very nice and I thoroughly enjoy
knowing you online. I just wish we could all meet one another in
person. This group is also a special place for me. Thanks for
letting me be a part of this group and thanks again to Penny and Annette for
overseeing everything. And - Thanks to all of the members for being so
supportive - not only about RA - but, about everything.
Penny, the group "owner"
I’m
glad I invested in this group too, it’s such a special place for me and you all
are like family. I do enjoy our time together each day so much and as you said
I’ve also learned a huge amount. I guess there are many things that the doctors
either don’t have the time to explain or many things that they simply have no
idea about because they don’t live it. And to think when I first joined here, I
really didn’t think I needed a support group. How wrong can you
be?!
Roze
I am happy you found this group too. I have learned so much from
you and always appreciate your sharing. I think our group is unique.
Maggie
I have to say I love this group a lot. I am not in
any other group. Don't need to be as everyone here is just the best and
I have learned a lot from this group.
I would be lost without all the support I get from everyone here. I class them as my second family xx.uk
Grammy
I'm with you Maggie. This is my only group as well. Just feel like I'm always behind lately since shuffling kids more often
Our Doctors
Roze
My idea was to make a list of things that docs could share with their
patients that we had to learn from each other, and/or things that would
make our lives a little easier without having to go through trial and
error.
Penny
We
were talking about the things that we’ve learnt from being in this
group, versus what our doctors have taught us. I said to Roze I
wasn’t sure if the reason for the lack of info from the doctors was due
to lack of time, or lack of living with RA themselves.
Polly
I think they know what the "words" mean but they don't know
what the "experience" is. For example, I don't think my pulmonologist
(as good as he is) really appreciates what it is like for me to have the
lung conditions and RA running around my body and the Fibromyalgia
kicking in some pain here and some pain there. They seem to live out of
their textbooks and we live out of our life's experience.
Benefits
Maggie
I
discovered from all of you, for example, that I was not lazy. In the
beginning, because so many treat you like if you'd just do a little
exercise you would be all well again, and you all taught me that my
experience was real and you validated that. I think validation is the
best medicine.
Me too Maggie and I’m not lazy either. I do have a group of girlfriends online, we
all met in a chatting mums group when I first went online about 15 yrs
ago, and many of us have now met in real life when we had a meet up in
Dublin. We trust each other implicitly like a group of sisters and have
seen each other through a myriad of trials and tribulations and through a
‘lot’ of laughs. They are like family and so is everyone in this group
to me.
Maggie
Like you I don't tell my husband half of the things I worry about. He has enough on his plate.
Penny
That’s a good valid point, sharing things here takes some of the burden off our partners I’m sure of that.
Roze
That is a considerable benefit to not have to share with husbands when you can share with us. Good point Julie
Penny
Well
I have one idea right away Annette, and that was thanks to you. You
mentioned the silver ring splint company to us, and that led onto me not
only getting my own splints made, but in being referred to an OT,
something my rheumy (not one of the ones I’ve had over the years), had
ever mentioned despite me already having finger deformities. These
things should be discussed early on in my opinion and not after the
damage has already been done. Prevention is always better than cure
Silver ring splint from Digisplint.com above and on my finger at left
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Having support is a good thing... I knew I needed it and feel blessed I have all of you here... Even if I don't post as often as I should...